You haven’t heard from me for a while.
Sorry about that.
To be honest, I’m running scared.
Do you know that feeling? Some would call it performance anxiety. Some would call it personal sabotage. Some may even call it simply being chicken sh...
What do you call it? When you know what you can do. When you face doing what you’ve always been able to do and...it just disappears. Your confidence, your faith, even your inspiration. It just disappears and you’re left feeling...empty. Maybe a little stupid. Blank. Yes, you’re just left feeling blank. (Fear and doubt. They’re monsters, aren’t they?)
Ultimately, I end up asking myself: who’s expectations am I attempting to live up to? If my goal is to achieve what others expect of me, then is what I’m doing really still mine? If I’m striving for perfection, there’s the danger I’m not going a step farther than right here for fear of failure. I don’t want to stay here...
I want to keep growing, learning, moving. I can’t sit frozen, worried of what others will think. I have to do it for me. Not for my desire to be seen. Not for my desire to be recognized or acknowledged. Not for my desire to be told,
“If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.”
- Epictetus (55AD - 135AD), Serendipity
There it is. I have to do it for me.
No more fear and doubt--foolish and stupid it is.
Maybe I was on the right path all along.
It's Saturday. I was up all night with my daughter. I shared a bottle of wine with my wife. I have a blister on my heel. Blah Blah Blah...Get out today and get a workout in. In fact, don't make it a SMALL workout!
Blast those pecs! Rip those Triceps! Run 12km instead of 5km.We all have OFF days but working through these EXCUSE riddled times will ultimately create the results that we want in both physical and mental selves.Now, if you are on a strict training regimen then I assume that this may be a RECOVERY day in which case you deserve
the physical break. This may be a time to explore the world of yoga or meditation.YOGA
is a generic term for the physical,mental and spiritual
practices or disciplines which originated in ancient India with a view to attain a state of permanent peace.Potential benefits of YOGA include
musculoskeletal and mental health improvements, reduced symptoms of asthma in asthmatics and has been shown to improve mood and anxiety.
Overall, studies of the effects of yoga on heart disease suggest that yoga may reduce high blood pressure, improve symptoms of heart failure, enhance cardiac rehabilitation, and lower cardiovascular risk factors.There are many websites involved with teaching beginners to advanced practitioners in creating the ZEN mind and body.Two of my favourites are www.myyogaonline.com
(for beginners)Have a look at these websites and perhaps build yourself a program to enhance your physical flexibility as well as your mental peacefulness.Good luck and NO EXCUSES!- G -
So hey there!
If G’s portion of this blog is to pump you up and keep you going, mine is going to encourage you to slow down and chill.
I’m a thirty-something mom of three awesome youngsters. I’ve been known to run a marathon or three in the past and up until about six years go, I had my sights set on more races while researching training programs that would take me to attempting my first triathlon. I loved being active (and I still do) but somewhere along the way, I got sick...
As far as I can tell, it started as a common cold that led to an unusual loss in weight. Believe me, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t excited by the pounds that were literally falling off me but after a couple months of it, I couldn’t deny that just how tired and weak I was feeling. I was in the midst of training for my second marathon so, despite the undeniable fact that my body was not responding well, I continued to run. Eventually came Christmas and an opportunity to test my suspicions: I gave myself permission to eat whatever I wanted over the holidays, and I do mean WHATEVER! Mashed potatoes, extra gravy, mounds and mounds of cookies and cakes, pies and tarts (and that was just the food) - nothing was off limits! The results were not good: an unquenchable thirst, fatigue that could not be overcome, and the loss of 2.5 more pounds despite the 10 days of binging. I was diabetic and I knew it.
Should I have gone to the doctor? Yes. Did I? Nope.
I was afraid of being told I was not fit to run.
So, I denied the evidence. I kept training, as mentally and physically painful as it was, and eventually made my way to the start line.
I’m happy to say I made it to mile 20, then...
A hyperglycemic wall was waiting for me and it left me seriously considering quitting.
I seriously thought about limping into the nearest aid station and just sitting down...
My pride had me choked up with tears about how horrible it was that I would be nowhere near my goal time and how embarrassing it was to be me.
Yet, somehow I chose to keep going.
I chose to leave my pride, along with my time goals, on the side of the road in the spot that would have been so easy to sit in myself. I chose to look up from my shuffling feet and take in the scenes around me - after all, I WAS in Disney World! I chose to smile at those passing me. I chose to encourage the few I was passing. Despite my apparent physical failings, I chose to have fun.
Eventually, the four toenails I lost grew back and the Mickey Mouse medal that motivated me to keep moving found a home in a drawer of random collectibles. What does remain is a framed collage of pictures that include some of our family adventures in the theme parks, animals from the safari and a few of me with some of the Disney characters that lined the route. Or at least those that lined the last 6 miles of the race. They are pictures that I would not have taken the time to pose for had I not been forced to slow down. Ones that would never had been taken had I not chose to keep shuffling.
Don’t be afraid to shuffle, my friends. Meeting a goal might be impressive but don't forget to consider taking time to smell those roses and pose for those pictures you may never have the chance to pose for again. Pride may be a great motivator for some but my experience has been that it really isn't much of a prize. Bragging rights get old but being able to frame a picture of me with the Toy Story gang? Now that’s priceless.
Never forget the fun.
J. (Diagnosed Type 1 diabetic, 2008)
There is a Feeling that I am sure you have experienced sometime in your career or in your life. Someone a lot wiser than I called it The Winning Feeling…
It’s not a feeling that you Think You Can Win, it is more like a Knowing You’re Going To Win. It is Very Cool and Very Powerful when you have it, and the Good News is: You can Conjure it up at will. All you do is Vividly Imagine the time when you have had The Feeling, if you honestly haven’t had it or can’t remember when you had it, it will still work for you. You will have to do more work to Get It because you will have to Vividly Imagine what it would be like to KNOW you are going to WIN…
When Imagining the Winning Feeling, go back in your mind to the time just before the event and ‘Remember’ what it was like to Be There. Remember the Sights and Sounds and Smells and anything you Said or Felt. Pay some attention to this part, it is Important. Remember how you Felt at that time, and Recall the Knowing that you were going to Win. Remember what Your Thoughts Were as well. Spend some time with this and really get into the Feeling State that you had at that time. This is where you want to Be…
You can conjure up this Winning Feeling at any time and it will serve you well. It will get easier to do and it will come quicker the more you do it.
If you are thinking that this is ‘Old Hat’ and that you are doing this already, there is one more component that, in my humble opinion, is the Key to getting the most out of this exercise. That is Belief… Once you get to the place where You Own The Winning Feeling, then your Odds of Success just went Off The Charts…
You often see fighters in pre-fight interviews saying the same thing: that they are going to Win… The Key Factor is their Internal Belief System and how Convinced they are that what they are saying is True. In the weeks ahead of the event, The Winning Feeling can actually be used to Condition the Mind and Convince the Mind that Winning will be the Outcome. Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich, said “That whatever the mind can Conceive, and Believe, it can Achieve”… It is the Voice inside the mind that makes or breaks a lot of Winners. Convince it of the Win by Conjuring up
The Winning Feeling…
It doesn't really get more hardcore than this. Ask for it, Believe it and Receive it. Easy right?
Yes... Incredibly easy. To a degree.
We all have the ability to ask for something. We learned this as a baby when we cry. Then we learn to hold out our hand, say I want, then graduate to asking politely as a toddler to young adult.
This is where it all starts falling apart. As we get older, we begin to stop asking for the things we want because we think that these things require hard work on our parts in order for them to be ours. Bullshit... This is a terrible lesson that we have been taught early in our childhood right up to retirement! Now I am definitely an advocate of hard work and perseverance but by no means do I believe that we must bust our asses for everything good that happens to us. Look at it this way...
If you have thought about it, It is already happening... You have set the wheels in motion for the universe to guide you on the path to ultimately having what it is you are thinking about. Be specific when you ASK for what it is that you desire. Do you want more MONEY? Yes, all of us want more money so let’s talk about something different. Do you want that delicately used Mercedes Benz E63 AMG? Now that's specific. Its black. It’s a 2007 and it’s also $97,000. This where most of you are stopped in your tracks. You stop asking and start questioning either why we deserve it or how we can afford it? STOP! If you want something that bad... YOU WILL HAVE IT. Did you also know that a $97,000 Mercedes Benz E63 AMG can be had for monthly payments of under $2000?? Just sayin'... Do you want a better job? Fine... What kind of hours do you want to work? Do you want a labor position? Upper management? Where will you be located? How much does this job pay?
All of these questions must be included when asking for and determining your specific goal or desire. The more pointed your questions in your mind and subconscious mind will allow you to see results happening and you start to BELIEVE.
You may start seeing things such as that dreaded bill in the mail that ends up saying DO NOT PAY or the tax refund that is MUCH higher than you had anticipated.
You may have a friend that lets you in on the fact that a position has opened up at the company he/she works at. He/she may invite you to a social gathering where you will end up meeting the manager.
This is where and how you RECEIVE. You are opening yourself up to new opportunities and are now starting to attract things into your life to put you on your desired path.
ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE.
You will attract everything that you require. If its money you need you will attract it. If its people you need you will attract it. You've got to pay attention to what you're attracted to, because as you hold images of what you want, you're going to be attracted to things and they're going to be attracted to you. It literally moves into physical reality with and through you and it does that by law.
- Bob Proctor
Rhonda Byrne, The Secret
A well-developed mental attitude is key to performing at a high level in sports. You don't have to be a professional athlete to be a successful athlete but mental preparedness is the same when competing at a certain standard or towards a specific goal.
Your body is about to be put through a series of tests. You must prepare it for this much like you prepare for an exam in school or a non-sports related event such as a job interview.
Most people don't realize that they do not get enough sleep. Sleep and rest periods are an essential part of any program designed to prepare your body for competition. Without proper sleep and recovery periods, fatigue sets in, in both the way we move and the way we think.
Proper diet is a foundation for achieving the mental attitude that we seek to perform at optimum levels. Our body craves the replenishment of energy in order to maintain alertness. Without the right foods and enough water, our bodies and minds will not operate together as well as they can and performance falters.
DO THIS DAILY
2. Mental Imagery
I believe this concept of mental preparedness to be just as important as eating and sleeping. The mind is powerful. Imagining yourself performing well in competition and recovering from poor performances positively will enhance the minds ability to make key changes at crucial times much faster as it is already built in to the brains "mainframe".
I also incorporate self-talk into this concept. Positive self-talk among each individual is both important for single person competition and team sports. Internal and external positive self-talk are important in order to increase motivation and neuron arousal levels which are both crucial for peak performance
DO THIS DAILY
3. Emotions and Stress
Accepting stress and anxiety as part of sport will separate the successful performance from the less successful performance. Your emotions play an intricate part in identifying readiness and confidence.
Successful athletes realize these emotions and know how to reduce anxiety when it becomes to strong and use positive stress or "Eu-stress" as opposed to "Distress" to improve performance instead of interfere with it.
DO THIS DAILY.
Prepare, Imagine and Manage emotions to leap ahead of the pack and perform at your best. We all have less than awesome days but doing these three things daily will help limit the sub-stellar performances and keep us excited and focused on rising to new levels every time we step into a performance situation.
Take care & comb your hair.
- G –
This is not going to be your run of the mill positive thinking and self-development website.
We will be touching on and exploring many ways to improve your mental quality of life and your overall outlook of the world in general.
There will be topics that some of us will disagree on but we will have a look at them just the same.
This will be a learning curve for you as well as myself. I am very passionate about certain things that I believe make the proverbial world go round but am open to change if it will make my life more enjoyable.
I will be writing about things I KNOW. I will also be looking to YOU to bring up topics via email that could be discussed in later blogs. Please feel free to share your thoughts as this is going to develop faster with reader's input.
From Yoga, meditation and positive affirmations to performance in the rink, field, track and ring... I will try and bring it all to you. If it’s HARDCORE and POSITIVE it will have a spot here!
In my travels I have had the pleasure to meet and stay in contact with many highly trained athletes and business people. I truly believe that this site will open not only YOUR mind but the minds of the professionals who submit their thoughts and ideas.
This site is will not please everyone but if YOU are willing and open to make changes in your life then perhaps you should give it a browse. I look forward to hearing from everyone and hope to see a positive change in ourselves and the lives we touch.
Now get to the gym!